How to help an aging parent with a hoarding problem

How to help an aging parent with a hoarding problem

Dear Savvy Senior,

My 70-year-old mother has become somewhat of a hoarder. Since my father died a few years ago, her house is so disorganized and messy with stuff that it’s becoming a hazard. What should I do to help her?

Troubled Son

Dear Troubled,

Clutter addiction is a problem that effects up to 5 percent of Americans, many of whom are seniors. The problems can range anywhere from moderate messiness to hoarding so severe it may be related to a mental-health disorder like obsessive-compulsive disorder. Here’s what you should know, along with some tips and resources that can help your mom.

Why people hoard

The reasons most people hoard are because they have an extreme sentimental attachment to their possessions or they believe they might need their items at a later date. Hoarding also can be a sign that an older person is depressed or showing early symptoms of dementia.

Common problems for seniors who live in excessive clutter are tripping, falling and breaking a bone; overlooking bills and missing medications that are hidden in the clutter; suffering from the environmental effects of mold, mildew and dust; and even living among insects and rodents.

What to do

To get a handle on your mom’s problem, the Institute for Challenging Disorganization offers a free “Clutter Hoarding Scale” that you can download off its website at

If you find your mom has a moderate cluttering problem, there are a number of things you can do to help.

Start by having a talk with her, respectfully expressing your concern for her health and safety and offering your assistance to help her declutter.

If she takes you up on it, most professional organizers recommend decluttering in small steps. Take one room at a time or even a portion of a room at a time. This will help prevent your mom from getting overwhelmed.

Before you start, designate three piles or boxes for your mom’s stuff: One pile is for items she wants to keep and put away, another is the donate pile, and the last is the throwaway pile.

You and your mom will need to determine which pile her things belong in as you work. If your mom struggles with sentimental items she doesn’t use, like her husband’s old tools or mother’s china for example, suggest she keep only one item for memory sake and donate the rest to family members who will use them.

You also will need to help her set up a system for organizing the kept items and new possessions.

Find help

If you need some help with the decluttering and organizing, consider hiring a professional organizer who can come to your mom’s home to help you prioritize, organize and remove the clutter. The nonprofit group, National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals, has a directory on the website at to help you locate a professional in your area.

If your mom has a bigger, more serious hoarding problem (if her daily functioning is impaired or if she is having financial difficulties, health problems or other issues because of her hoarding), you’ll need to seek professional help. Antidepressants and/or talk therapy can help address control issues, anxiety, depression and other feelings that may underline hoarding tendencies and make it easier for her to confront her disorder.

To learn more and find professional help, see the International OCD Foundation, which provides a hoarding center on its website ( that offers information, resources, treatments, self-help groups and more. Also see, a site that has a national database of qualified resources including cleaning companies and therapists that can help.

Send your senior questions to Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book.

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