Finding your place to belong

Finding your place to belong

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” — Mother Teresa.

In a little under five months I will be a married man. September is coming quickly; it will be here before we know it. We thought we would rent, but we have two cats. Well, she has two cats, but I have always been an animal lover.

I had a dog, a cat, rabbits, a frog, a toad, my bother had a turtle and fish all while growing up. The frog, toad and rabbits were all outside pets. Most places we looked to rent only allowed one pet, and one place allowed two, but they want more money for them. I am not against renting at all, as it is fine for a period of time.

However, my mom told me sometimes a house payment can be cheaper than rent, and if you live there long enough, you will come to the end of your payment and have that much more at the end of the month. Plus, I like the idea of having a house that we can make our own.

If we want to put a hole in the wall to put a picture up, we can. If we want to paint a wall, we just paint it how we want. There are pros and cons to everything. If we rent and something breaks, we call the landlord to fix it. If we own it, we pay to fix it. If we own a place, there will come a time when we will be done paying every month. Renting, we will not have that to look forward to.

We are doing all we need to do with looking for a house: going to the bank, going to open houses and talking to a realtor, looking at houses, praying to seek the Lord’s will, and seeing how much we can afford.

It can be overwhelming at times, but it needs to be done. We are just trying to enjoy the journey. Not every house we look at is the one for us, but every house gives us ideas of what we like and what we don’t like.

There are a lot of people out there searching for a place to call their own. No, they are not looking for a house like me, but they are looking for a group of people who would accept and appreciate them for who they are, people who for so long have been outside the mainstream of society and the expectations put on them by the so-called rulers of society, the people who decide what is right and what is wrong.

People can be so close-minded to other people’s pain that they never give them a second look. If someone does open up, they are immediately blown off by someone with “better things to do.” Heaven forbidden we take the time to hear where other people are coming from. We might miss the big game.

People are hurting on the inside, and they feel like they have nobody to talk to. We have all seen the person who doesn’t look other people in the eyes or the quiet type who eats alone in the lunchroom at work or school. What would happen if we would go and sit beside them?

I know the risk involved with just sitting beside someone. What do you say after all? You know if we just started off small, like talking about the weather, we might be surprised where it can go.

We might start off with the weather, and that might turn into a conversation about farming, gardening or even about the Bible, and one conversion might turn into a lot more. Maybe after awhile we can invite them to a game night, Bible study, a high school sporting event, you name it, whatever one can think of.

For the ones who are maybe feeling on the outside of things, look in the paper. There is information about club meetings. There are Bible studies. The library has game night and family movie night. Church is a great place to meet new people, so are events in the community. If we don’t put ourselves out there, we will never find a place to belong.

We as human beings are made for relationships with each other. Make someone’s day by being a friend today.

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