Figure out what works best for you

Figure out what works best for you

“You’re born an original. Don’t die a copy.” —John Mason

Far too many people don’t like themselves or don’t know who they are supposed to be. We tell children to be themselves, but we would often like to live someone else’s life. It looks like some have it all together, that is until we get to know who they really are.

Just look at the rich and famous. How many of them wish they could be someone else? The answer is probably more than we realize. We can look at anyone and see all they have and want to be just like them. However, we see only what they want us to see.

What is even worse is we try to do what they do because we think we can be as successful as them. Most of the time, copying someone else will not work — not everything works for everyone equally. Each one of us is made to be different, with different likes and wants, ways to think, how to look at things and so on. It is when people demand we live as they live that we have to be OK with disappointing people.

Everyone of us was born unique, with a skill set, personality, mind, sense of humor and more. Unfortunately, there also will be people who think that if something works for them, it must work for everyone else. Life was not designed to work that way. In fact, it is an insult to God when we try to make others a copy of us. I know people who can’t understand why others can’t do what they do or how they do it. Still, others think there can only be one way to do a task, and if we can’t do it their way, we are doing it wrong.

I don’t remember exactly what I was doing, but someone was showing me how to do something and I couldn’t get it. I thought maybe I needed to see it again, so they showed me again. Finally, I noticed that if I added another step, I could nail it down. I was met by a disapproving look and was told I did it wrong. Wait, what? I got the some outcome, but it wasn’t done their way, and for some odd reason it became an insult to them.

People will try to get us to do things their way, but we are not them. If one way works for a person, then it must work for everyone, right? Most of us can take something people show us and modify it so it works for us. We don’t have to copy someone exactly or we are a failure. Yet people act like it has to be done their way.

Sometimes we can just say we tried it the way they preferred, but it wasn’t working for us. Hopefully, they won’t push the matter, but they might. We could say, “It works for you but not for me.” Sometimes I say, “This is just what works best for me.”

Unfortunately, if they push, we have to just move on, not to be disrespectful, but in order to stay on good terms, we just need to walk away.

Oh, by the way you don’t have to do it my way. Figure out what works best for you and live your own life.

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