How we think about ourself makes a difference
- Kyle Snyder: Live on Purpose
- September 21, 2018
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How do we view ourselves? What do we think about our life, or better yet how is our life going so far?
There is a popular saying, “life stinks,” and if we buy into that, it will determine how well our life will be. We will probably never see life as more than something to be survived, as opposed to something to be enjoyed.
We go to our so-called friends and live out their ideas of what life is and not really put ourselves out there and see what might happen. People who embrace the idea that life really stinks are just reacting to all the bad in their life, instead of changing what they can change and letting be what they can’t change.
I see it all the time: people who every time I talk to them are constantly talking about how life is so hard. It is never how great they are feeling or how much joy their children or grandchildren bring them.
Oh no, it’s about how many problems affect them and ruin their life. The cold, hard truth is our problems can’t ruin our life, but over thinking about them can. They are just events in our life for the most part; they are not who we are as a person.
What I mean is not letting every little thing get to us and just letting things go. We are worth so much more than to let everything bug us.
Life is not perfect, and we only have so much time on this Earth. We can’t waste it by worrying about little, trivial things that don’t matter in the first place. Do you know you matter? Yes, you!
No matter who we are or what we have done in our past, we matter. Now we get told we matter from a very young age, and many of us have heard it so much it becomes just words to us. It is more than just words; it should be our reality.
We hide the fact we don’t think we matter from other people. How we see ourselves produces outward results in our behaviors. We might start making comments about how other people look, or we just might say things to their face that are not appropriate. It seems to me that saying things to somebody’s face is becoming more and more acceptable.
As I am getting older, I have begun to put on weight, not much weight but a little bit. I had a man who says he is my friend who came right out to me and said I am getting fat. Now I know he probably thinks he is just joking, but that tells me he is most likely hurting inside. It probably makes him feel better to poke fun at me.
I do feel bad for the man because he had to make me feel bad in order to make himself feel better. However, this never works. Because when we hurt others to make ourselves feel better, we are doing more harm than good.
We need to get to know ourselves and what we want out of life. Stop listening to other people who don’t have your best interest in mind. Just because somebody thinks something about life doesn’t mean it is true.
They just talk from their own experience with life. It doesn’t mean it will be your experience with life. One person may have one experience, and the next will have some totally different experience. God made us to be different and not like someone else. You are your own person so act like it.
We need to start listening to what God says about us and not how people who don’t really know what they are talking about see us. God Almighty doesn’t see someone who is just a victim of their life. Rather he sees somebody who he loves and wants to have a relationship with. He wants to help us in our day-to-day life.
We sometimes think God is not for us but is against us. That is a product of our low self-esteem. Let’s ask God to show us how much he loves us, and let’s open ourselves to his great love.